Now, that’s the norm these days, even guys that are not your boyfriend chat you up and ask for your nude photo. And its not new how they can make you feel guilty or callous for refusing to send them the photos.
First, I just want you to know that there is nothing wrong with refusing to send nude photos. It’s completely understandable – and totally okay – to not want to send naked pictures, even if he is your boyfriend. Really, these nude pictures could end up on internet or get shared with other guys. That’s really valid, considering it happens all the time, and is exactly why guardians always recommend against sending naked pictures. Once those photos are in the hands of someone else, that person can do whatever they want with them. That’s scary!
Second: You definitely need to talk to your boyfriend if he keeps on demanding nude photos. Tell him the truth – that you’re just not comfortable with the idea of sending naked pictures of yourself. He’ll absolutely promise you that he won’t do anything with them, but tell him that doesn’t matter, you still don’t like the idea of it. Let him know that it’s not an issue of trust; it’s just something you don’t want to do, with him or anyone else. Be stern so that he knows that nothing he can say will change your mind. If he’s a good guy who cares about you, he’ll understand where you’re coming from and he’ll back off.
If he stops asking, great! Continue your relationship. If he keeps pushing the issue, however, then you can consider possibly breaking up with him, because that’s annoying. You can give him one more warning, like, “You really need to stop asking, it’s getting on my nerves. I already told you how I feel, and that’s not going to change.” If that still doesn’t work, then maybe you should end things, because that shows that he really only cares about what he wants and he isn’t respecting what you want.
Just make sure you know that there’s nothing wrong with refusing to send nude photos to guys, because some of them can make you feel miserable and doubtful enough to change your mind. Other girls may be okay with sending naked pictures, but that doesn’t mean you have to be.
Don’t let this guy – or anyone else – ever guilt you into doing it.
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