overcoming shynessEveryone gets shy from time to time, but if your shyness is affecting your relationship with people or it’s making your friends think you are hostile or proud, then you really need to work on overcoming it!

Here are 5 tips that will help you get control of shyness.

1. Get to Like Yourself
You can only be comfortable around other people if you’re comfy around yourself. Focus on the people and things that make you feel good – like your friends, your family and your favorite hobbies. Love yourself for who you are, spend your free time doing stuff that makes you happy.

2. Be Friendly
Shy people tend not to smile or make eye contact with other people. It might lead to people thinking you aren’t interested in talking to them, or that you have an attitude. Snap out of it. When you’re talking to someone, remind yourself to look at them, to smile, to stay involved in the conversation. Straightening your posture helps, too. Pretty soon this will come naturally to you, but you have to practice.

3. Take Chances
Ask more questions. Take up an offer to go somewhere you’ve never been. Pay a stranger a compliment. Try stuff out, even if it makes you nervous. Being shy has a lot to do with being scared. If you start facing your fear, you’ll learn to get over it.

4. Don’t compare yourself to others
The more you compare yourself to others, the more you will feel that you are not able to measure up and the more intimidated you will feel, which will make you shyer. There is no use to compare yourself to anybody else.

5. Think about how great you are
Everyone has some special gift or trait to offer to the world. Think about what you know, what you can do, and what you have accomplished, rather than paying attention to how you look, sound, or dress. Keep in mind that everyone, even the “beautiful people,” have something about themselves or their life that they don’t like. There’s no particular reason why your “problem” should make you shy while their “problem” doesn’t make them shy.